To All the Boys I've Loved Before (2018) Parents Guide: Is the book OK for kids?
Age Rating, Sex, Violence & Language
What if all the crushes you ever had found out how you felt about them… all at once? Sixteen-year-old Lara Jean Covey keeps her love letters in a hatbox her mother gave her. They aren’t love letters that anyone else wrote for her; these are ones she’s written. One for every boy she’s ever loved—five in all. When she writes, she pours out her heart and soul and says all the things she would never say in real life, because her letters are for her eyes only. Until the day that her sister Kathrine, secretly mailed the letters and… Sign up for the full guide
YA • 2018 • 373 pages • Grade 7-10 / Lexile 780L (roughly grades 4–5 reading difficulty)
When her secret love letters are mailed out, high-schooler Lara Jean fakes a relationship to save face and slowly falls for real. Recommended for ages 12 and up for a mild teen romance, some kissing, and a suggestive rumor. There is no explicit sexual content; concerns are limited to teen dating, a hot-tub rumor, and some drinking.
Is To All the Boys I've Loved Before appropriate for kids?
When her secret love letters are mailed out, high-schooler Lara Jean fakes a relationship to save face and slowly falls for real. Recommended for ages 12 and up for a mild teen romance, some kissing, and a suggestive rumor. There is no explicit sexual content; concerns are… Read more — free account
Content severity in To All the Boys I've Loved Before
What happens in To All the Boys I've Loved Before, moment by moment
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Sex and nudity in To All the Boys I've Loved Before
The sexual content is mild and limited to multiple scenes of romantic kissing between teenagers, particularly between Lara Jean and Peter Kavinsky. A significant plot point involves a suggestive rumor about a video taken in a hot tub during a school ski trip; however, it is clarified that nothing explicit occurred and no nudity is depicted. Lara Jean experiences intense anxiety over her reputation and how others perceive her physical intimacy. The story maintains a sweet, innocent tone focused on emotional…
Read more — free accountViolence and gore in To All the Boys I've Loved Before
No violence or gore appears in this story, as it remains firmly within the contemporary romantic comedy genre. The plot focuses on high school relationships, secret letters, and family dynamics rather than physical confrontation. There are no scenes of physical conflict, injury, or threatening behavior between the characters. The only 'aggression' involves social maneuvering and the occasional tense verbal disagreement between friends or siblings. Readers seeking a safe, non-violent story will find this book…
Read more — free accountLanguage in To All the Boys I've Loved Before
This book contains no profanity, vulgarity, or crude language, adhering to a very clean standard for the young adult genre. The dialogue is polite and appropriate for a middle-grade or young teen audience, with characters using words like 'darn' or 'shoot' if they use interjections at all. Even during moments of high stress, such as when Lara Jean confronts her sister or Peter, the language remains respectful and non-offensive. The lack of swearing reflects Lara Jean's somewhat sheltered and traditional…
Read more — free accountDrugs, alcohol, and smoking in To All the Boys I've Loved Before
There are moderate depictions of underage drinking at a house party and during a school ski trip. While characters are shown consuming alcohol in social settings, the narrative does not glamorize the behavior or include illegal drug use or smoking. These instances serve as realistic backdrops for the social pressures faced by the teenage characters.
Mature themes in To All the Boys I've Loved Before
The story explores mature themes such as the complexity of sisterhood, particularly the shifting dynamics when the eldest sister Margot leaves for college in Scotland. The narrative is underpinned by the grief of losing a mother at a young age, as the Song sisters and their father navigate life without her. Central to the plot is the fallout from Lara Jean's private love letters being mailed without her consent, leading her to navigate a fake relationship to protect her feelings and save face. These themes are…
Read more — free accountFrequently Asked Questions
Is To All the Boys I've Loved Before appropriate for kids?
Bontent's parent guide suggests To All the Boys I've Loved Before is best for ages 12+. When her secret love letters are mailed out, high-schooler Lara Jean fakes a relationship to save face and slowly falls for real. Recommended for ages 12 and up for a mild teen romance, some kissing, and a suggestive…
What age rating does To All the Boys I've Loved Before have?
Books don't carry official age ratings. To All the Boys I've Loved Before is shelved by its publisher as YA, but that's a marketing category, not a content rating — Bontent's own review of what's actually on the page puts it at ages 12+.
What reading level is To All the Boys I've Loved Before?
To All the Boys I've Loved Before is 373 pages and its reading level is Grade 7-10 / Lexile 780L (roughly grades 4–5 reading difficulty). Bontent recommends it for ages 12+.
What is To All the Boys I've Loved Before about?
When her secret love letters are mailed out, high-schooler Lara Jean fakes a relationship to save face and slowly falls for real. Recommended for ages 12 and up for a mild teen romance, some kissing, and a suggestive rumor. There is no explicit sexual content; concerns are limited to teen dating, a hot-tub rumor, and…
Is there sex or nudity in To All the Boys I've Loved Before?
The sexual content is mild and limited to multiple scenes of romantic kissing between teenagers, particularly between Lara Jean and Peter Kavinsky. A significant plot point involves a suggestive rumor about a video taken in a hot tub during a school ski trip…
How violent is To All the Boys I've Loved Before?
No violence or gore appears in this story, as it remains firmly within the contemporary romantic comedy genre. The plot focuses on high school relationships, secret letters, and family dynamics rather than physical confrontation. There are no scenes of…
Is the language in To All the Boys I've Loved Before appropriate for kids?
This book contains no profanity, vulgarity, or crude language, adhering to a very clean standard for the young adult genre. The dialogue is polite and appropriate for a middle-grade or young teen audience, with characters using words like 'darn' or 'shoot' if…
Are drugs, alcohol, or smoking depicted in To All the Boys I've Loved Before?
There are moderate depictions of underage drinking at a house party and during a school ski trip. While characters are shown consuming alcohol in social settings, the narrative does not glamorize the behavior or include illegal drug use or smoking. These…
What mature themes appear in To All the Boys I've Loved Before?
The story explores mature themes such as the complexity of sisterhood, particularly the shifting dynamics when the eldest sister Margot leaves for college in Scotland. The narrative is underpinned by the grief of losing a mother at a young age, as the Song…
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