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Between you & me (2016) Parents Guide: Is the book OK for kids?

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"Hilarious…This book charmed my socks off." —Patricia O’Conner, New York Times Book Review Mary Norris has spent more than three decades working in The New Yorker’s renowned copy department, helping to maintain its celebrated high standards. In Between You & Me, she brings her vast experience with grammar and usage, her good cheer and irreverence, and her finely sharpened pencils to help the rest of us in a boisterous language book as full of life as it is of practical advice. Named a Best Book of the Year by NPR, Amazon, Wall Street… Sign up for the full guide

Adult • 2016 • 228 pages • Adult Lexile

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Between You & Me is an irreverent, witty memoir-style grammar guide written by Mary Norris, a long-time copy editor for The New Yorker. The book is recommended for older teens and adults due to its sophisticated vocabulary, casual but frequent use of profanity, and frank discussions of adult topics (including anatomy in the context of pronouns and a chapter on ‘The F-Word’). It is an educational but boisterous look at the English… Sign up for the full guide

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Is Between you & me appropriate for kids?

Between You & Me is an irreverent, witty memoir-style grammar guide written by Mary Norris, a long-time copy editor for The New Yorker. The book is recommended for older teens and adults due to its sophisticated vocabulary, casual but frequent use of profanity, and frank… Read more — free account

Content severity in Between you & me

Sex Moderate 4/10
Violence None 0/10
Language Intense 8/10
Substances Mild 2/10
Themes Mild 2/10

What happens in Between you & me, moment by moment

  1. p. 1 💬 Language 3/10
  2. p. 12 🔥 Mature Themes 1/10
  3. p. 24 🔥 Mature Themes 2/10
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Sex and nudity in Between you & me

The book contains frank discussions of gender and anatomy as it relates to pronouns and grammar. Mary Norris examines the linguistic history of gendered terms, occasionally referencing specific body parts like the penis and vagina to clarify the biological roots of certain nouns. There are mentions of sexual orientation, including the author's observations of LGBTQ+ identities within the context of evolving pronoun preferences. While the book touches on adult relationships and workplace dynamics at The New Yorker…

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Violence and gore in Between you & me

There are no depictions of physical violence or gore throughout this memoir. The narrative focuses strictly on the professional life of a copy editor and the nuances of the English language. Any mentions of conflict are limited to intellectual disagreements regarding grammar, punctuation, and editorial style. Norris may use metaphors of 'killing' a sentence or 'slaughtering' a paragraph, but these are strictly jargon for the editing process. The most intense conflict involves a professional rivalry or a heated…

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Language in Between you & me

Strong and frequent profanity is a hallmark of this educational memoir. The author spends an entire chapter, titled 'Chapter 9: The F-Word,' analyzing the usage and history of the word 'fuck,' using it repeatedly in a linguistic context to demonstrate its versatility as different parts of speech. Other profanities like 'shit,' 'piss,' 'bastard,' and 'hell' appear throughout the text as Norris recounts anecdotes from the copy desk. She explores the 'dirty words' that writers like Philip Roth or John Updike fought…

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Drugs, alcohol, and smoking in Between you & me

The author mentions drinking wine or cocktails in social or workplace settings common in New York publishing culture. Norris describes the 'three-martini lunch' era and mentions specific drinks like gin and tonics or glasses of wine consumed at parties or while traveling. There is a brief mention of her brother's struggles and the general presence of alcohol in the literary world, but substance use is never glamorized or central to the plot. The book treats drinking as a casual, social component of adult…

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Mature themes in Between you & me

Themes include the pursuit of perfection, the evolution of language, workplace professionalism, and the value of mentorship and expertise. Norris reflects on her childhood in Cleveland and her transition to the high-stakes environment of The New Yorker, illustrating the theme of personal growth and career dedication. The book explores the tension between tradition and modernity as language shifts to accommodate new social norms. There is a strong emphasis on the dignity of labor, whether it is driving a milk truck…

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Frequently Asked Questions

Is Between you & me appropriate for kids?

Bontent's parent guide suggests Between you & me is best for ages 16+. Between You & Me is an irreverent, witty memoir-style grammar guide written by Mary Norris, a long-time copy editor for The New Yorker. The book is recommended for older teens and adults due to its sophisticated…

What age rating does Between you & me have?

Books don't carry official age ratings. Between you & me is shelved by its publisher as Adult, but that's a marketing category, not a content rating — Bontent's own review of what's actually on the page puts it at ages 16+.

What reading level is Between you & me?

Between you & me is 228 pages and its reading level is Adult Lexile. Bontent recommends it for ages 16+.

What is Between you & me about?

Between You & Me is an irreverent, witty memoir-style grammar guide written by Mary Norris, a long-time copy editor for The New Yorker. The book is recommended for older teens and adults due to its sophisticated vocabulary, casual but frequent use of profanity, and frank discussions of adult topics (including anatomy…

Is there sex or nudity in Between you & me?

The book contains frank discussions of gender and anatomy as it relates to pronouns and grammar. Mary Norris examines the linguistic history of gendered terms, occasionally referencing specific body parts like the penis and vagina to clarify the biological…

How violent is Between you & me?

There are no depictions of physical violence or gore throughout this memoir. The narrative focuses strictly on the professional life of a copy editor and the nuances of the English language. Any mentions of conflict are limited to intellectual disagreements…

Is the language in Between you & me appropriate for kids?

Strong and frequent profanity is a hallmark of this educational memoir. The author spends an entire chapter, titled 'Chapter 9: The F-Word,' analyzing the usage and history of the word 'fuck,' using it repeatedly in a linguistic context to demonstrate its…

Are drugs, alcohol, or smoking depicted in Between you & me?

The author mentions drinking wine or cocktails in social or workplace settings common in New York publishing culture. Norris describes the 'three-martini lunch' era and mentions specific drinks like gin and tonics or glasses of wine consumed at parties or…

What mature themes appear in Between you & me?

Themes include the pursuit of perfection, the evolution of language, workplace professionalism, and the value of mentorship and expertise. Norris reflects on her childhood in Cleveland and her transition to the high-stakes environment of The New Yorker…

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