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A First Time for Everything (2023) Parents Guide: Is the book OK for kids?

Age Rating, Sex, Violence & Language

A First Time for Everything is best for ages 10+ according to Bontent's parent guide. The strongest content in this book is themes at 3/10 (moderate) and sex at 1/10 (mild). Below you'll find severity scores out of 10 for every category plus the moments parents ask about most.

Middle Grade • 2023 • 400 pages • Lexile GN (graphic novel)

Age
10+

This National Book Award-winning graphic memoir follows illustrator Dan Santat's real middle-school trip through Europe in 1989, where a bullied, withdrawn kid finds friendship, confidence, and his first kiss. Parents should know it includes a mother's serious illness (lupus) and school bullying as background, but it's overwhelmingly warm and low-content, a great pick for kids nervous about travel, friendship, or fitting in.

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Is A First Time for Everything appropriate for kids?

This National Book Award-winning graphic memoir follows illustrator Dan Santat's real middle-school trip through Europe in 1989, where a bullied, withdrawn kid finds friendship, confidence, and his first kiss. Parents should know it includes a mother's serious illness (lupus)… Read more — free account

Content severity in A First Time for Everything

Sex Mild 1/10
Violence None 0/10
Language None 0/10
Substances None 0/10
Themes Moderate 3/10

What happens in A First Time for Everything, moment by moment

  1. p. 20 🔥 Mature Themes 3/10
  2. p. 60 🔥 Mature Themes 3/10
  3. p. 100 🔥 Mature Themes 2/10
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Sex and nudity in A First Time for Everything

There is no explicit sexual content or nudity depicted in this graphic memoir. The narrative focuses on the innocent blossoming of a first crush between Dan and a girl named Amy whom he meets during the study abroad program. The most significant romantic moment is a sweet first kiss that occurs in a public setting near the end of the trip. Other moments include minor blushing, hand-holding, and the nervous physical proximity typical of middle schoolers. The tone remains wholesome and respectful of the characters'…

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Violence and gore in A First Time for Everything

Physical violence is entirely absent from the story, with the narrative focusing instead on emotional growth. The primary conflict stems from social aggression, specifically the verbal bullying Dan endures from classmates like Daryl before leaving for the trip. There are flashbacks to embarrassing school moments where Dan feels targeted or humiliated, but no physical altercations occur. The memoir emphasizes Dan's internal struggle to overcome his fear of being judged rather than any external physical threats…

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Language in A First Time for Everything

The book contains almost no profanity, maintaining a very clean vocabulary suitable for late elementary and middle school readers. Characters occasionally use mild exclamations or playground insults that reflect the authentic speech of 1980s adolescents. There are no instances of severe swearing, slurs, or vulgarities. Most of the dialogue focuses on the excitement of travel, the awkwardness of new friendships, and Dan's internal monologue about his lack of confidence. The lack of harsh language reinforces the…

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Drugs, alcohol, and smoking in A First Time for Everything

There is no depiction of illegal substance use, smoking, or drug-related themes in this memoir. Because the story takes place in Europe where cultural norms differ, there are background scenes in restaurants or public squares where adults may be seen with glasses of wine or beer. However, the students themselves do not engage in drinking, and no one is shown in a state of intoxication. The focus remains strictly on the cultural experiences and sightseeing activities of the student group. Substance abuse is not a…

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Mature themes in A First Time for Everything

The central themes revolve around the transformative power of travel and the difficult process of overcoming social anxiety and low self-esteem. Dan's journey is colored by the emotional weight of his mother's struggle with lupus, which creates a sense of fragility and worry within his home life. Bullying serves as a catalyst for his initial withdrawal, making his eventual social breakthrough in London and Paris more meaningful. The book explores the importance of taking risks, stepping out of one's comfort zone…

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Frequently Asked Questions

Is A First Time for Everything appropriate for kids?

Bontent's parent guide suggests A First Time for Everything is best for ages 10+. This National Book Award-winning graphic memoir follows illustrator Dan Santat's real middle-school trip through Europe in 1989, where a bullied, withdrawn kid finds friendship, confidence, and his first kiss. Parents…

What age rating does A First Time for Everything have?

Books don't carry official age ratings. A First Time for Everything is published for a Middle Grade audience, and Bontent's independent parent guide recommends it for ages 10+.

What reading level is A First Time for Everything?

A First Time for Everything is 400 pages and its reading level is Lexile GN (graphic novel). Bontent recommends it for ages 10+.

What is A First Time for Everything about?

This National Book Award-winning graphic memoir follows illustrator Dan Santat's real middle-school trip through Europe in 1989, where a bullied, withdrawn kid finds friendship, confidence, and his first kiss. Parents should know it includes a mother's serious illness (lupus) and school bullying as background, but…

Is there sex or nudity in A First Time for Everything?

There is no explicit sexual content or nudity depicted in this graphic memoir. The narrative focuses on the innocent blossoming of a first crush between Dan and a girl named Amy whom he meets during the study abroad program. The most significant romantic…

How violent is A First Time for Everything?

Physical violence is entirely absent from the story, with the narrative focusing instead on emotional growth. The primary conflict stems from social aggression, specifically the verbal bullying Dan endures from classmates like Daryl before leaving for the…

Is the language in A First Time for Everything appropriate for kids?

The book contains almost no profanity, maintaining a very clean vocabulary suitable for late elementary and middle school readers. Characters occasionally use mild exclamations or playground insults that reflect the authentic speech of 1980s adolescents…

Are drugs, alcohol, or smoking depicted in A First Time for Everything?

There is no depiction of illegal substance use, smoking, or drug-related themes in this memoir. Because the story takes place in Europe where cultural norms differ, there are background scenes in restaurants or public squares where adults may be seen with…

What mature themes appear in A First Time for Everything?

The central themes revolve around the transformative power of travel and the difficult process of overcoming social anxiety and low self-esteem. Dan's journey is colored by the emotional weight of his mother's struggle with lupus, which creates a sense of…

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